THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT A SHY GIRL.
1. Just because she's shy doesn't mean she's not
confident. Please don't mistake being shy for not
being self-assured. She's confident in who she is
and knows what she wants, even if she may not
always appear that way. Chances are, she's
always trying her best to radiate a more #boss-
like persona, but in the meantime, CAN SHE
LIVE?!
2. She's independent. She's never been the type
of person who *needs* to be in a relationship, or
even someone to go to dinner with. She's
perfectly content on her own, thxvm. She knows
what she wants in life and she's determined to
make it happen. She isn't going to waste time in a
relationship with someone who isn't as
independent as she is.
3. She actually needs to be by herself
occasionally. Maybe it's reading a book, maybe
it's listening to her favorite album in its entirety.
Whatever it is, that time is sacred and it
recharges her soul , so don't question it.
4. It can be challenging for her to open up to
people. So, if she is telling you about her family,
her goals in life, or anything that's super
important to her, it's because she trusts you.
5. You want to introduce her to friends and
family? Great! Please plan a small gathering as
opposed to a huge party where 20 strangers will
descend on her at once and freak her out.
6. No, she doesn't dislike your friends and family.
She simply hasn't had enough time to get to know
them yet.
7. Being the center of attention is basically her
worst nightmare. Karaoke in front of a billion
people? Yeah, no.
8. How to gracefully accept a compliment is
probably a thing she has yet to master. "Oh, you
like my hair?! Thanks! It's actually the worst, I
don't know why I wore it like this. But yeah, I like
your, um, face. I mean, your hair is great too,
super good. OK, bye."
9. She's an incredible listener. Seriously, the best
of the best. Shy girls listen — like, really listen —
to each and every one of your thoughts with the
most discerning ear. She'll add her own two
cents, but she'll also always let you finish what
you want to say.
10. Surprise! She enjoys parties. First of all, the
more people, the less of a chance there is that all
the attention will be on her. Secondly, being shy
doesn't mean she hates meeting new people! It
just takes her a little longer to come out of her
shell. If she isn't speaking too much at first, it's
not because she's disinterested. She's surveying
the scene and taking it all in. She'll chime in to
the conversation eventually.
11. She's obsessed with outgoing people. No,
really! Many of her friends are the ~life of the
party~ and she loves them for it. They remind
her that it's OK to loosen up once in awhile.
12. Stop asking her if she's mad. She's not mad!
13. Don't call her out for not being able to make
eye contact. Making solid eye contact is a
legitimately difficult thing to do when you're shy!
She gets anxiety just thinking about it.
14. She's probably not looking for a shy guy.
Realistically speaking, the two of you wouldn't be
able to look each other in the eye and everything
would be a hot mess. Besides, opposites attract,
etc., etc.
15. She's selfless. She's not the type of person
who craves attention. She finds joy in other
people's happiness, and she expects the person
she dates to do the same.
16. Don't assume she's socially awkward or inept.
She just mixes all the words up when she speaks
because meeting new people is exhausting, OK?!
There's a difference.
17. She's totally game to try new things. She
might not be the first person to come up to you at
a party, but she's daring, adventurous, and an
even (gasp!) outgoing once you get to know her.
18. Yes, it's going to take some time to get to
know her. But it is totally worth the effort.
BY CAITLIN SCOTT
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